So you’ve decided you want to bring in the new. You have goals. And they’re big. It’s January and you’re still pumped up because it’s a new year and this is the year, dammnit! This is the year you make some things happen.
Only thing is, you’re not really sure where to start. Sure you’ve written down what you’d like to accomplish. You know what you’d like to create next. But sheesh, how do you actually get there?
This is where our good friend the turtle comes in.(Note that I did not say lizard, but turtle. And yes, both of them are reptiles, but the turtle will get you where you need to go whereas the lizard will do whatever it takes to keep you from it. Make sure you distinguish them accordingly).
The turtle moves slowly, but it moves steadily. It is persistent. It does not believe that it has to lose 20 pounds, enroll in three online dating services and meet the person of its dreams by next month. No, no, no. The turtle would never set unrealistic or undefined goals because the turtle is much too wise for that.
This is what the turtle does. It knows what it can and cannot control. Then it creates a big goal. An ambitious, exciting and tad bit intimidating goal. And the turtle does what turtles do best. It moves, a little bit at a time, until it reaches its destination.
Take a look at some of your goals for this year. Ask yourself:
– Is this goal realistic?
Remember the hare? Remember why he lost the race? If you go too hard, too fast, you’ll burn out. Make sure your goals are actually realistic and attainable.
-Can I control the outcome of this goal?
You actually have no idea how much weight your body will lose or if you’ll meet your dream partner this year. You can’t control those outcomes, so don’t make them goals. What you can control are your diet/exercising habits and how often you’re willing to put yourself out there to meet new people. Make these your goals.
-Do I really want to achieve this goal (or am I doing this for someone else?)
Goals centered around others’ wants just won’t hold up. If you want to be successful, you’ve got to make goals that are important to you.
If you answered no to any of the above, then you’ve gotta revise your goals. To maximize your chances of success, your goals should be S.M.A.R.T. Setting Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Timely goals is a crucial springboard for getting to where you want to go.
Next post…breaking things down into manageable, turtle steps.