Browsing All Posts published on »June, 2010«

3 Steps to Forgiveness and How to Take Him to Zero

June 30, 2010


He hurt you. Big time. And try as you might, you just can’t seem to let it go. Well-meaning people may encourage you to “forgive and forget.” But I’m here to tell you that even though holding onto that anger will be detrimental in the long run, your friends are only HALF right. Why Trying […]

Dysfunctional Dating Pattern #6: High-Risk Relationships

June 28, 2010


He’s an alcoholic.  He has a problem with drugs. He’s married. Or, he has a string of disturbing relationships from his past (ie: four divorces). What do all of these situations have in common? They all mean that there are some pretty high risks of getting involved with him. And by high risk I mean […]

weekly chocolate-a different package

June 25, 2010


One of the best pieces of relationship advice I ever received was from coach Katherine Woodward Thomas. “Love comes to us in many ways. We have no idea, really, how or when it will come. Nor do we know what it will look like when it does.“ Entertain that the person you’ve been waiting for […]

The True Test of Character

June 22, 2010


What do you value? What are your core values? When we hear these questions, many of us state what we think will sound good to others. “I’m honest. I’m trustworthy. I’m dependable. I’m loyal. I’m a hard worker.” But the true test of one’s character is not based on words. What you truly value can be […]

Dysfunctional Dating Pattern #5: Settling

June 21, 2010


Of all the dysfunctional dating patterns, this one is perhaps the hardest for women (and their well-meaning friends and families) to understand. It’s one thing if a guy is a flame-out or a drama whore or deeply wounded. Most of us can clearly see how hurtful these men can be, even if it is, perhaps, […]

weekly chocolate-on approval

June 18, 2010


“If you do what interests you, then at least one person is pleased.” Katherine Hepburn How many of us spend our lives trying to gain the approval of others? I would say the majority of us do this quite a bit and you probably do it a lot more than you realize. Today, watch yourself […]

Dysfunctional Dating Pattern #4: The Fairytale Myth

June 15, 2010


You just can’t keep your eyes off this guy. He walks into the room, full of charisma and charm. He is captivating, intense, passionate and gorgeous. He is looking for his one true love and he proclaims to everyone that nothing will stop him from finding her. He is willing to ride wild horses across […]

weekly chocolate-On being overwhelmed

June 11, 2010


“One may walk over the highest mountain one step at a time.” -Barbara Walters I am one of those people who dreams big. So you’re probably not surprised to hear that I also have some wonderful friends who dream big too. And big dreams require big goals. One friend of mine is training for a […]

Know Thyself

June 9, 2010


In a previous post, I discussed the importance of being honest with people about what’s important to you in a relationship. One should be aware of what she is willing and is not willing to compromise before seriously getting involved with anyone. And that of course, would require that one really knows herself. I am […]

Dysfunctional Dating Pattern #3: Pretending IT is not important

June 7, 2010


There’s something that’s important to you. I mean, REALLY important. You want to get married some day. Or you love kids and want some of your own. Or you don’t love kids and don’t want any. Or you love your pets and wouldn’t dream of giving them away. Or you’re devout to your religion. Whatever […]