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“The doors are closing!” and other desperate lizard cries

October 21, 2010


Take Jennie*. She’s an attractive woman in her late 30’s who has worked hard to make a successful niche for herself in her career. Armed with a fantastic sense of humor and a plethora of interesting life experiences, she is also kind, thoughtful and generous.  She spends a lot of her free time with members of […]

Nothing Supports Me

October 15, 2010


Several months ago, a client of mine was making several huge, sweeping life changes. She was ending a romantic relationship, finishing an advanced degree (and looking for a new job that would allow her to put her degree to good use) and trying to raise several children by herself. Bills were piling up and collectors […]

Enough, already!

October 11, 2010


I’m not good enough is one of my favorite lizard lies because for many years it held such power over me. This one little lie caused so much suffering. It seems to be a story that many of my clients’ lizards tell to them often as well. I’m not good enough is a variation of […]

What to do with Lizard Lies

October 5, 2010


If you’ve started to become aware of the self-defeating messages from your lizard, if you’ve begun to identify its “Tunes O’ Terror,” then you’re ready for the next step. You’re ready to put your lizard in its place (which is on a leash), where it can do as little harm as possible. How does one […]

Your Lizard and Love

October 1, 2010


There’s someone in your life who is ruining your relationships and sabotaging your love life. There’s someone who’s not only a tyrant and a bully, but a power monger, a naysayer and a big-time fear inducer. That someone would be your lizard. Some people call this fear-based part of you “the reptilian brain” or your […]