Browsing All Posts published on »November, 2010«

Getting Out of the Fantasy

November 30, 2010


If you read my post on being Stuck in the Fantasy and it rang a few bells, I’d like to offer you some steps you can take to get Un-Stuck. If you’re stuck fantasizing about an ex: -Start a “Why I’m Glad this Relationship Didn’t Work Out” folder. Gather all of the mean emails he/she […]

Stuck in the Fantasy

November 24, 2010


  There are so many possible ways of getting stuck in relationships. One way some people get stuck is by choosing to spend their emotional and mental energy in a fantasy relationship rather than in a real one. When I talk about getting Stuck in the Fantasy, I am not talking about people who are […]

Getting Un-Stuck on Challenges

November 23, 2010


Are you an overachiever? Have you accomplished more than most people in your age bracket? Are you the kind of person who loves extreme physical activities?┬áDo you seek out difficult situations because overcoming them feels invigorating? If you answered yes to most of these questions, you are probably someone who naturally gravitates towards challenges. The […]

Stuck on the Challenge

November 16, 2010


No one can figure her out. She’s the kind of woman who just doesn’t give clear signals. Flirty one minute, aloof the next, she’s the kind of person who cancels potential dates at the last minute and doesn’t seem to feel the need to apologize for it. He’s a hard nut to crack. He’s emotionally […]

Stuck in the Past Solutions

November 12, 2010


If my post on being Stuck in the Past resonated with you and you have honestly answered the question posed in that post, you are ready to get Un-Stuck. Look at the answer you wrote down on why are you choosing to stay stuck in the past. What are you afraid to face about the […]

Stuck in the Past

November 11, 2010


One of the most painful ways to get really stuck in your love life is to get stuck in the past. Maybe you once met someone who just completely captivated you or maybe you were in (what you’d consider) a fantastic relationship that is no longer. Whether short-lived or an extended affair, you just can’t […]

Stuck on the Rhetoric

November 9, 2010


“If someone shows you who they are, believe them.” -Maya Angelou The above quote is one of my favorites. You know why? Because it’s true. A person continuously shows you who they are through their actions. Not through what they tell you they believe, not through their Facebook status updates, but by the way that […]

Weekly Chocolate: Defining your Path

November 5, 2010


Do you know what you want? Do you know what you’re looking for in your romantic relationships and what you won’t tolerate? Getting clear about your answers to these questions is an important part of getting Un-Stuck. Here’s some food for thought from marriage therapist Katherine Woodward-Thomas: It’s important that we know our limits. It’s […]

A Fix for the Crumb-y Relationship

November 3, 2010


People often feel stuck when they’re in a Crumb-y Relationship. They hang on to the hope that the other person will change and start giving out more than crumbs. Because we cannot change another person’s behavior, waiting for someone else to change-and short-changing ourselves in the process-results in the frustrating feeling of being stuck in […]