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Challenge #10: Mastering an Unspoken Language

August 31, 2011


Remember when your teacher told you to sit up in class to show that you were serious about learning? Or your mother got on your case about your bad posture? Or perhaps a friend told you how important it was to make eye contact in an interview. Your whole life people have been telling you, […]

Challenge #9: Your Personal Style

August 29, 2011


As I discussed in the post about Your Image, your feelings of self-worth are partly advertised in the ways in which you present yourself. In addition to making sure you are as physically healthy as you can possibly be (a sure sign that you value yourself), you’ll also want to make sure that the clothes […]

Challenge 8: Your Body: Your Temple, Your Pet

August 26, 2011


“Do you not know that your body is a temple of God?” ~The Bible “To keep the body in good health is a duty… otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear.”  ~Buddha “Keep your body pure and clean for the soul to reside in.”  ~B.K.S. Iyengar, Yoga: The Path To […]

Your Image

August 25, 2011


As we finish up the series of challenges this month in the Self-Worth Challenge, there is one area left that we need to tackle: Your Image (otherwise known as the way in which you choose to present yourself to the world.) There is probably no faster way to communicate to others who you are and […]

Challenge 7: Boundary-Setting Strategies

August 24, 2011


In the last Challenge, you were asked to face and dissolve your lizard fears around boundary-setting. Because boundary-setting may be so new to you, it would probably help to have some strategies (things to say, actions to take, etc) to help get you started. Below are some of my personal favorites. Use the ones you […]

Challenge #6: Healthy boundaries and your Lizard

August 22, 2011


So you’ve figured out when someone has crossed your line. You’ve identified situations where you realize one of your personal boundaries has been crossed. You’re starting to notice how very reliable that Body Compass is and have even gotten into the habit of gauging who and what makes you uncomfortable. Great job. That was the […]

Challenge #5: Learn your Line

August 17, 2011


Each one of us has (what I like to call) a line. That line is a very valuable thing. It’s the line that divides what we are comfortable with from what we are not comfortable with. That line is the line that tells others where your boundaries are. A big part of learning your own […]

Challenge # 4: The Dating Journal

August 15, 2011


If you’ve been keeping up with the challenges in the Self-Worth Challenge thus far, you have done a lot of work. Already you’ve developed several systems to refine your dating selection process. You’ve learned how to make conscious choices about your non-negotiables and you’ve defined the traits of both “good” and “ideal” partners. You also […]

Challenge #3: Develop Your Relationship Compass

August 11, 2011


Now that your lists are complete, you may think you’ve got everything you need to get started. But there’s one more challenge you’ll need to take before you have completely mastered developing strong selectivity. The lists your worked on in Challenge 1 and 2 will help you weed-out people who are not right for you. […]

Challenge Two: Who gets to enroll?

August 9, 2011


This month, we’ve been taking a look at how increasing your own perception of your self-worth can assist you in making better relationship choices. I’ve used the analogy of Harvard’s selection process to help you better understand that your selection process is going to have to be conscious one. And in my last post, we […]