Guess the problem here

Posted on August 1, 2011


Ponder this:

-You’ve been working at the same company for the past 5 years. Despite your hard work, volunteering for projects no one else will lead and staying late many a night to meet deadlines, you still have not gotten promoted.Although you’d like to use the economy as an excuse, three of the people you  began this job with have moved on to bigger, more prestigious and higher paying positions. You know you should at least ask for a raise but don’t want to risk losing the boss’s approbation for being a low-maintenance employee. Plus, isn’t that a stupid move in a recession?

-Your friends and family know that you’re always the one they can count on when they’ve gotten into a tight spot. You’ve loaned money for rent, picked up intoxicated people from the bar at 4am and have even played last-minute emergency babysitter. Yet, last week when you needed help moving, everyone was busy and had an excuse ready about why they couldn’t help.

-You’ve tried several dating websites, singles’ groups and have even asked friends to set you up. You don’t seem to have a problem meeting people, but relationships never seem to go very far so you have a tendency to really jump in when someone gives you a second or third date. When a relationship that does last for more than a few months ends, you’re often left kicking yourself for not noticing some big red flags sooner.

-You know that you should exercise, but you’re so busy that it’s hard to make time. Eating lunch out everyday doesn’t help your waistline either, but between work, helping out your sister with her kids and the other projects you’ve volunteered for, you just don’t have the time or energy to pack a lunch everyday. Anyway, you don’t place that much emphasis on how someone looks and you figure others shouldn’t either. Focusing too much on looks is probably superficial anyway and you hope potential romantic partners will love you for who you are, not what you look like.

All four of these scenarios have, at their core, the same problem. Can you guess what it is?

Posted in: Love 101, Self-Worth