What you DON’T know about change

Posted on September 2, 2011


You know the pattern.

You’re not happy with something or someone. You think to yourself-I am not happy. This is not working. It’s time for a change. And so you set out, in whatever way you think is best, in whatever direction you think is possible, to change that which needs to be changed.

Perhaps the change isn’t that big at all. Maybe you’re just tired of eating turkey sandwiches for lunch and one day you decide it’s time to expand your sandwich horizons. Or maybe the change you want to implement is downright huge. Maybe you want to completely transform your life-change your job, change your romantic partner, change your city of residence, just about everything.

So, you do something. Maybe you buy a book to help get you started on the change. Maybe you sign up for a class or a workshop. Maybe you go around and tell anyone who will listen about the change you’ve decided to make. Maybe you just sit around and think about changing. Or maybe you’re someone who will actually do something to get the change in motion.

But if you’re like most, you’ll either find a million reasons not to really get started or you’ll start in and then give up before your change is complete.

Why is this? you may wonder. Is this some type of moral failing on your end? Some type of issue that you have with self-motivation? Do you need to develop better problem-solving skills? Did you not plan well enough?

There are probably a lot of reasons why a change you wanted to execute wasn’t successful. But what I’m willing to bet is that the reason you weren’t able to change is because you really weren’t ready to change

When it really boils down to it, the truth is that you will change when you’ve decided, in your heart of hearts, that you’re completely ready to.

There are three psychological stages that one must pass through before one is ready to start changing. And then, even if you are willing to take some kind of action, there are still four more stages you must master before you will be able to achieve your goal.

This isn’t exactly intuitive nor is it easy.  No wonder so many people fail when they try to change. No wonder there are so many unreached goals, unfulfilled dreams and broken New Year’s Resolutions out there. No one has ever taught us how to go about changing in a way that is authentic to us.

Failure doesn’t happen to people who are lazy or unmotivated or unprepared. It happens to people who aren’t fully ready to change. And even the best-intentioned people aren’t truly ready to change until they get educated on what real change entails.

Well, you don’t need to wait any longer. Your class is finally here. Think of this blog for the next month as Real Change 101. This month, on this blog, I will walk you through what you need to know to make an informed, intelligent and educated decision about any change you’d like to make.

Instead of wasting any more time and energy trying something that is only going to lead to more feelings of failure, why not spend some time figuring out where you fall on the spectrum of change?

This month, you will learn about the seven psychological stages of successful change. Then, you’ll be able to analyze and obtain the resources you need for each one. You will also learn what you can expect when you traverse the four steps in the change process.  (That’s right. There are seven stages and four steps). And, just because I love coaching in whatever format I can, I’ll also provide you with some free helpful tips and strategies to keep you going when the going gets tough.

Thanks for joining me. This is sure to be quite a month.

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