Browsing All Posts published on »September, 2012«

The Truth about Happy

September 23, 2012


Falling in love won’t make you happy. Being married won’t make you happy. Neither will having children.  Either you decide to be a happy person or you decide not to be.  Why must something happen in order for you to be happy? Give yourself permission to be happy now. 

Relationships take work

September 22, 2012


Because communicating is work. Because taking responsibility and accountability is work. Because showing up is work. Because compromising is work.  But in order for a relationship to work, both people must be willing to work at it and for it. A one-sided relationship isn’t really a relationship at all. 

It’s Simple

September 21, 2012


Either someone wants to be with you, or they don’t.  Either someone makes time for you and your relationship, or they don’t.  Either someone is kind to you or they aren’t. No need for complex psychoanalysis or excuses. No need to assign what someone else’s actions mean about you.  Things are or they aren’t.

Acceptance 3

September 20, 2012


People will only change if they want to change. No amount of begging and crying and screaming on your part will make them change. People change when they’ve decided they want to.  You, however, can change yourself. You have a couple of options. You can:  1. Change your perspective.  2. Change your circumstance. 

Acceptance 2

September 19, 2012


A bird sings. A dog barks. A cat meows. This is how it works. If you go to the pet store and you bring home a bird, don’t expect it to bark. If you have a cat, don’t expect it to sing. If you want something that barks, get a dog. If you want something […]


September 18, 2012


A lot of people think acceptance is the same as permitting. But it’s not. Not at all. Let’s take your worst relationship as an example. Perhaps that person lied. Perhaps that person cheated. Perhaps that person was abusive. Perhaps that person was hurtful. Perhaps that person was disrespectful. By accepting that the person of your […]


September 17, 2012


Forgiveness can be a tricky thing.  If you forgive someone, does it make you naive? Does it mean that you condone another person’s hurtful actions? Does it set you up to be a doormat? There tends to be a lot of spiritual baggage around the word forgive and around the concept of forgiveness. In my […]