Browsing All Posts published on »November, 2012«

beware the big talkers

November 30, 2012


There’s a woman I know that posts on Facebook about 20 times a day, talking about how successful she is, how awesome her life is, how cool it is to be her.  I don’t believe her. She doth protest too much. 

If it was a movie…

November 29, 2012


It’s hard to get the distance you need to honestly evaluate your life and your relationships sometimes. You’re just too attached and too connected to see things for what they really are.  But if your life was a movie and you were watching it, what advice would you give the protagonist? If she were a […]

You see what’s in your mind

November 28, 2012


Ever notice how, when you’re having a crappy day, everything looks glum?  The barista at Starbucks seems to glare at you, the drivers on the freeway are jackasses who intentionally cut you off, your colleagues seem to be in a pissy mood. That’s because you’ve chosen to see the world through the filter of how […]

Who makes the cut?

November 27, 2012


I have friends I call when I need a good laugh but with whom I would never share my deepest life’s struggles as they aren’t yet able to be empathic enough with such precious confidences.   It’s not that the funny friends are worth less than the inner circle friends; it’s just that they serve […]

Meet people where they are

November 26, 2012


One of the best things you can do for all of your relationships is to meet people where they are. Rather than putting so many expectations on people and setting yourself up for disappointment, figure out who and where they are in their lives and then you can set your expectations accordingly.  

Negotiating Tactics

November 25, 2012


I’m reading a book on negotiating tactics. So many of my clients this past year have come to me for career guidance and negotiating a salary is definitely something I’d like to learn more about so I can help them get paid what they deserve.  It’s fascinating to me how many of these negotiating steps […]

You are enough

November 24, 2012


That’s the truth.  You’re the one who doesn’t believe it and so you surround yourself with people who don’t believe it either.  

On settling

November 23, 2012


There’s a difference between accepting what someone can give you, accepting who he is and settling for him.  Living in reality means that you learn to be real with your expectations. Don’t expect a fruit tree to grow potatoes, don’t expect a bird to start barking like a dog and don’t expect a jerk to […]

They did me wrong

November 22, 2012


I’ve spent the better part of my life wrestling with a story.  The story has different characters at different times, different plot lines, different scenes, but the overall point in this story is: They did me wrong.  The client who skipped town before paying for her sessions. The two-faced neighbor. The alcoholic ex-boyfriend. The college […]

Their loss

November 21, 2012


You know that guy who never called you back after the first date? That friend that blew you off? That person you cared deeply about who ended up being so disappointing?  Their loss.