Making resolutions work for you

Posted on January 29, 2013



This month, I’ve been walking you through how to be successful with your New Year’s Resolutions. We’ve talked about being true to your resolve, the difference between goals and habits, and how to start shifting your deepest-rooted negative thinking habits so that you can start taking productive action towards a happier, more fulfilling life. Here’s a review of this month’s lessons: 

1. New Year’s Resolutions will be easier and more fun to follow if you make them about things you actually want to do (rather than about what others tell you should do). 

2. One of the best things you can resolve is to be brave enough to live your own life and do the things that make you happy. (Rather than letting the opinions and well-meaning advice of others cloud your judgment). 

3. Big goals are really nothing more than conscious, focused daily habits. Therefore, rather than focusing so much on meeting goals, break your goals down into tiny steps you can take everyday to accomplish what you’d like to accomplish. 

4. All actions step from your thoughts. It’s helpful to learn how to challenge big, negative thinking patterns, but true transformation occurs when you learn to a) identify your thinking patterns and b) learn to shift them using a coaching tool (ie: Byron Katie’s The Work). 

5. Thinking patterns can be recognized by observing your thoughts. Also, any internal story that begins with the word “should” is a solid clue about a thinking pattern. 

6. By refusing to stay stuck in a “should” story that is making your miserable, you are taking a solid first step to changing. Rather than waste precious mind-energy on the story, instead decide what productive action and conscious choices you can take that will serve you better. 

Posted in: Habits, Setting Goals