Browsing All Posts published on »February, 2013«

The Circle of Friends-Part II

February 23, 2013


Once you’re clear on the types of friends a woman has, then you can begin the next step in this coaching tool. You’ll want to take a piece of white paper (ideally with no lines) and draw five concentric circles. Then, you’re going to label them like so: 1. The smallest circle, the innermost circle, […]

The Circle of Friends-Part I

February 22, 2013


There is an activity I do with clients who are struggling with their friendships. It’s called the Circle of Friends. The first step is get some definitions and some concepts straight about your expectations of your friends, because usually your disappointment comes from categorizing people incorrectly. A healthy, solid social life for a woman will […]

On Friends and Friendship

February 20, 2013


In this month, a month devoted to love, I would be remiss if I didn’t talk about one of the most important aspects in any woman’s life: the love she has for her friends. In my last post, I talked about how important it is to find like-minded friends and not waste time and energy […]

Just because you get it…

February 16, 2013


…doesn’t mean that everybody else does.  The other week I was coaching a client who is having trouble with her friendships. This woman is kind, thoughtful and intelligent. She makes sure to show up for the people she loves. During one of our sessions, I actually thought to myself-If she’s having trouble making good friends, then […]

A Real Valentine’s Day

February 11, 2013


In the past, I’ve posted tips, strategies and coaching tools on how to survive Valentine’s Day if you’re single. If that’s what you need right now, you can find some of them here and here. But if you’re looking for something different, then this post is for you. This year, why not make this holiday about […]

Not a box of chocolates

February 10, 2013


“Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift.” ― Mary Oliver

Unexpressed love

February 7, 2013


There have been two times in my life that I’ve almost died. The first one came at age 19, when I was diagnosed with stage 3b lymphoma. The other one came when I had my son and went into severe heart failure. Both times were somewhat similar. Rather than a life-flashing-before-my-eyes  kind of experience, I […]

Types of love

February 4, 2013


The Greeks said there were three types of love. 1. Eros-romantic/erotic love 2. Philos-the love between friends or 3. Agape-unconditional love.  This has not been my experience in life. I’ve felt way more types of love than this. For example, what do you call the non-romantic love that spontaneously arises for a stranger? What do […]

Return to love

February 1, 2013


Our culture is one that is obsessed with romantic love. From our over-the-top celebrations on Valentine’s Day to the ever-expanding romantic comedy movie genre, we are people who love to talk about, think about and dream about love. In fact, even the phrase “I love you” is one that you probably associate first with something […]