Unexpressed love

Posted on February 7, 2013


Heart in a cage with a padlock.

There have been two times in my life that I’ve almost died. The first one came at age 19, when I was diagnosed with stage 3b lymphoma. The other one came when I had my son and went into severe heart failure.

Both times were somewhat similar. Rather than a life-flashing-before-my-eyes  kind of experience, I had hours lying in a hospital bed to think about my life and what I wished I would have done. Although more than 15 years separated the two experiences, my regrets were exactly the same. This article from an Australian hospice nurse is right on target.

At the end of our lives, most of us will regret similar things. We will regret not living a life that would have made us happy. Basically, we’ll regret not expressing love for ourselves, our happiness and our lives. We will also regret not investing time in our relationships. We’ll regret not expressing our love (through our time, energy and empathy) to the people who mean the most to us.

If it’s so common for our end-of-life regrets to be centered around unexpressed love, then why would we not spend the present moment doing the opposite?

Posted in: Love, Your Wise Self