The power of your environment

Posted on March 11, 2013


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In the April 2013 issue of Psychology Today, author Ron Friedman cited “the most critical, and overlooked, factor in a job search” as the people with whom we work.

Based on new research in motivational synchronicity, “by choosing to spend the majority of our waking hours with a particular set of people, we are not only determining the tenor of our daily experiences, we are defining the person we will eventually become.”

Recently, I read an article in Shape magazine on motivational synchronicity that said basically the same thing, only about getting healthy. It cited research that stated the people you hang out with are the ones who can motivate, or derail, your decision to work out and eat better. The article argued that if you want to meet your goals to get fit, you should make a conscious effort to hang out more often with friends who will join you at the gym.

All this research states what you probably already knew intuitively: Your environment is  a very powerful influence on who you become, even as an adult. The people you spend your time with (whether intentionally or not) can motivate or discourage you.  

When you’re making big changes, you’re especially vulnerable because a lot is new and unknown.  Although it’s unrealistic to think that you can handpick everyone in your environment, you do have the choice of whom to share your thoughts and feelings with. Protect yourself wisely and seek out the people who bring out the best in you. 

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