#6: Hurt on Purpose

Posted on July 10, 2013


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There are some people in the world who feel the need to say and do hurtful things on purpose. Regardless of what you say to them about their words and actions, some people decide that they are stuck on being mean.

Now all of us, at some point or another, have said or done something hurtful to another person and then regretted it. We all know awful it feels when we realize that we’ve hurt someone unintentionally. We are familiar with that feeling of dread that arises when we realize that we should have said or acted differently and we feel terrible thinking that we’ve caused someone else pain. In my life experience, most people avoid hurting others.

But there are some people in the world who just seem to thrive on being jerks. You tell them what they are saying or doing is hurtful and still, they continue. I’m not sure why.  They feel powerful when they’ve delivered a blow to another person or something. Maybe they feel better about themselves by saying terrible things to others. I don’t get it and frankly, I don’t care why they do what they do. When someone intentionally says or does something to harm me, what I do is make a conscious, concerted effort to stay away from them.  

I suggest that you do the same.

When you first start a relationship with someone and you see them intentionally saying or doing things that are meant to be hurtful (to you or others), get out. Mean people can be relied on to be mean. You deserve much better than this.