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It was awful. Now what?

January 18, 2011

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Your last relationship was awful. Or that date you just went on was awful. Or the guy your sister’s boss’s cousin set you up with was awful. Something-or someone-happened and it. was. awful. Terrible. Almost too embarrassing to laugh about with your friends. Now what do you do? Your knee-jerk reaction may be to try to […]

7 Big Red Flags You Can Spot Immediately

July 7, 2010

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In my last post, I discussed the difference between signs and red flags. Signs are invitations for intelligent women to gather more information whereas red flags are warnings to not get involved.Here are seven, big red flags you’ll want to watch out for when you’re talking with a potential partner. If any of these flags appear, […]

Red Flags and Signs

July 5, 2010

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I used to be a big “sign” person. Whenever I’d face an important decision, I would ask for “a sign.” Do I take job x or job y? Do I go on another date with this guy or not? Should I stay in this relationship or let it go? Such big decisions. I didn’t trust […]

Dysfunctional Dating Pattern #6: High-Risk Relationships

June 28, 2010

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He’s an alcoholic.  He has a problem with drugs. He’s married. Or, he has a string of disturbing relationships from his past (ie: four divorces). What do all of these situations have in common? They all mean that there are some pretty high risks of getting involved with him. And by high risk I mean […]

Dysfunctional Dating Pattern #5: Settling

June 21, 2010

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Of all the dysfunctional dating patterns, this one is perhaps the hardest for women (and their well-meaning friends and families) to understand. It’s one thing if a guy is a flame-out or a drama whore or deeply wounded. Most of us can clearly see how hurtful these men can be, even if it is, perhaps, […]

Dysfunctional Dating Pattern #4: The Fairytale Myth

June 15, 2010

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You just can’t keep your eyes off this guy. He walks into the room, full of charisma and charm. He is captivating, intense, passionate and gorgeous. He is looking for his one true love and he proclaims to everyone that nothing will stop him from finding her. He is willing to ride wild horses across […]

Dysfunctional Dating Pattern #3: Pretending IT is not important

June 7, 2010

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There’s something that’s important to you. I mean, REALLY important. You want to get married some day. Or you love kids and want some of your own. Or you don’t love kids and don’t want any. Or you love your pets and wouldn’t dream of giving them away. Or you’re devout to your religion. Whatever […]

Dysfunctional Dating Pattern #2: Falling for the Flame-Out

June 1, 2010

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In a post last week, I discussed the first Dysfunctional Dating Pattern-Rescuing the Deeply Wounded Man. The next day, Jesse James, Sandra Bullock’s ex-husband, gave an interview to Nightline about his divorce. He claimed his abusive childhood caused him to cheat on his wife. What a completely pathetic excuse for infidelity! Thank you, Mr. James, […]

Dysfunctional Dating Pattern #1

May 24, 2010

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Being in my line of work as a dating and relationship coach, I am privy to some of the most common dating disasters women make. Add to this not settling down until I was in my 30’s and you can just imagine the amount of  material I have on this subject. One of the first […]

Five Ways to Meet Quality Men (and NO, the club is not one of them)

May 6, 2010

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The other day a friend of mine was gushing about a guy who finally asked her out. She is beyond elated-she’s had a crush on this guy forever. As she started describing how she was picturing her wedding, I stopped her mid-sentence and said what I say to all the women I love who are […]