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Mind your own damn feelings

December 18, 2013

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{Full disclosure: An old friend asked me for some coaching advice about this topic. I am, however, so not the expert in this area and struggle with the same issues myself, almost on a daily basis. I hope, by examining this question, we all can come to a more empowered place of relating to others. } The […]

Kind of kind

December 11, 2013

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This is what happens when you’re stuck in Atlanta traffic for almost two hours: you begin to contemplate life’s big questions. At least this is what happens to me. I want a philosophy from which to live my life but I’m just not sure which one is best. There’s a particular debate I’ve been having […]

Reason-ing

September 6, 2013

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Do you know what happens in a rural village in India when a child is born with more than two arms and legs? I found this out a few years ago when my husband was reading a Telugu newspaper online. G. was intently focusing on this article written in his native language (which looks like a bunch of […]

Real vs. Rubbish

March 21, 2013

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In my last post, I expounded on why it’s important to be able to assess the messenger of feedback and criticism you receive. In this post, I’m going to show you how.  In one of my favorite books of all time,  Nice Girls Just Don’t Get It, author Lois Frankel advises women to be cautious […]

Assess the Messenger

March 18, 2013

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Feedback can be really useful. In your work life, being able to graciously receive feedback and adjust one’s work accordingly is an essential  component of success. Feedback from the people you love can also help you to become a better partner and a better friend. So of course I’m not going to advise you to […]

A little no-nonsense marching in…

March 1, 2013

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“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.” -Mark Twain That’s so true, isn’t it? Small people belittle anything and everything that makes them feel threatened. Great people have a tendency to see the best […]

The Circle of Friends-Part II

February 23, 2013

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Once you’re clear on the types of friends a woman has, then you can begin the next step in this coaching tool. You’ll want to take a piece of white paper (ideally with no lines) and draw five concentric circles. Then, you’re going to label them like so: 1. The smallest circle, the innermost circle, […]

The Circle of Friends-Part I

February 22, 2013

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There is an activity I do with clients who are struggling with their friendships. It’s called the Circle of Friends. The first step is get some definitions and some concepts straight about your expectations of your friends, because usually your disappointment comes from categorizing people incorrectly. A healthy, solid social life for a woman will […]

On Friends and Friendship

February 20, 2013

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In this month, a month devoted to love, I would be remiss if I didn’t talk about one of the most important aspects in any woman’s life: the love she has for her friends. In my last post, I talked about how important it is to find like-minded friends and not waste time and energy […]

Just because you get it…

February 16, 2013

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…doesn’t mean that everybody else does.  The other week I was coaching a client who is having trouble with her friendships. This woman is kind, thoughtful and intelligent. She makes sure to show up for the people she loves. During one of our sessions, I actually thought to myself-If she’s having trouble making good friends, then […]