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Reason-ing

September 6, 2013

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Do you know what happens in a rural village in India when a child is born with more than two arms and legs? I found this out a few years ago when my husband was reading a Telugu newspaper online. G. was intently focusing on this article written in his native language (which looks like a bunch of […]

The should story-part 2

January 25, 2013

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The use of the word “should” is a good indicator that you’re arguing with reality. The only time we use this verb is when we’re lamenting something that didn’t happen (as in: I should have saved more money) or when we’re upset about something that happened (as in: He should not have cheated on me.) […]

The should story-part 1

January 22, 2013

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The reason it’s so important to be mindful of your thoughts is that they are the foundation of your beliefs about yourself and the world. These beliefs create the stories that you live by. These stories, in turn, are behind all of your actions and reactions.  Many of us don’t like our stories to be […]

Thinking Habits

January 15, 2013

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Habits are what we do everyday. They are the constants, the small things that actually form the foundation of the rest of our lives. Because we’ve been doing them for so long, they have become almost effortless; we just do them, with little to no struggle involved.  When you think of your habits, you probably […]

Problem #3: Your Identity

April 26, 2012

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As you’re working on your lizard thoughts, you may find yourself resisting a Turnaround because it deeply conflicts with your identity. The Work is, in essence, a Buddhist-like practice whose main purpose is to undo ego-stuff that causes you suffering. Your ego and your identity are pretty much the same thing. When you find a […]

Problem #2: Challenging a Fact

April 23, 2012

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Here’s another problem some of my clients have experienced with The Work: challenging the validity of a fact. Mistaking something that has actually happened as the cause of their woe, they try to put this truth up to inquiry. And they come up feeling quite confused. Here’s an example. Joe doesn’t call Sarah, even though […]

Problem #1: Invalidation

April 19, 2012

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A coaching colleague of mine wasn’t really a big fan of The Work. Although she completely understood the process intellectually, and she witnessed a lot of changes in others who tried this tool, she kept getting stuck when she tried it on her own lizard thoughts. “I don’t get this. This seems to work for […]