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The use of the word “should” is a good indicator that you’re arguing with reality. The only time we use this verb is when we’re lamenting something that didn’t happen (as in: I should have saved more money) or when we’re upset about something that happened (as in: He should not have cheated on me.) […]
April 26, 2012
As you’re working on your lizard thoughts, you may find yourself resisting a Turnaround because it deeply conflicts with your identity. The Work is, in essence, a Buddhist-like practice whose main purpose is to undo ego-stuff that causes you suffering. Your ego and your identity are pretty much the same thing. When you find a […]
April 23, 2012
Here’s another problem some of my clients have experienced with The Work: challenging the validity of a fact. Mistaking something that has actually happened as the cause of their woe, they try to put this truth up to inquiry. And they come up feeling quite confused. Here’s an example. Joe doesn’t call Sarah, even though […]
April 19, 2012
A coaching colleague of mine wasn’t really a big fan of The Work. Although she completely understood the process intellectually, and she witnessed a lot of changes in others who tried this tool, she kept getting stuck when she tried it on her own lizard thoughts. “I don’t get this. This seems to work for […]
April 18, 2012
As you go throughout this month spring cleaning your mind, you may, sometimes, find yourself stuck when you’re dealing with your lizard thoughts. Although you know that once you find a lizard thought, all you have to do is ask four questions and then do the Turnaround, sometimes challenges present themselves and it can be […]
April 13, 2012
So many lizard thoughts to clean up, so little time. Here’s another example as you spring clean your mind. Lizard thought: Just because you have a lot of clients now doesn’t mean you always will. It won’t be long before your business dries up and you won’t have any. See how sneaky Blanche is? Even when […]
April 12, 2012
Each day of this month marks a new opportunity for me to go within, pull out my lizard thoughts and dissolve them with The Work. Because we are spring cleaning our minds this month, I’m going to share as many of my lizard thoughts and stories with you so that you can to get your […]
April 10, 2012
Ever since I became a mom, my lizard has found an entirely new area of my life to ruthlessly critique. In her typical fashion, Blanche has found a number of creative ways to try and convince me that her typical lack and attack fears are true. Last week, I shared some of my lizard’s fears […]
April 9, 2012
If you’ve been doing your homework (and I hope you have), by now you’ve identified probably quite a few lizard thoughts. Maybe you’ve been surprised at how often your lizard speaks and how downright terrible your lizard can be. Writing those lizard thoughts down may have been somewhat of a not-so-pleasant revelation. Well, I have […]
August 22, 2011
So you’ve figured out when someone has crossed your line. You’ve identified situations where you realize one of your personal boundaries has been crossed. You’re starting to notice how very reliable that Body Compass is and have even gotten into the habit of gauging who and what makes you uncomfortable. Great job. That was the […]
January 25, 2013
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